Letters to Our Sons
Mother’s have an important role in the raising of their sons. Yes, fathers are important, but if the mother doesn’t do her part it can send the son down the wrong road. When I meet men or young boys the first thing that I ask is. How is your relationship with your mother? This lets me know a lot about how he will treat women. It never fails that those that have an unhealthy relationship with their mother are having a hard time in several different relationships with females and tend to be stuck. We have seen this impact the condition of the family and cause a breakdown in the family. Part of the problem to me is that our homes are uncovered because the men are not present due to several reasons.
One of the big reasons is that statistic shows that (August 2012) Since 2002, the United States has had the highest incarceration rate in the world. Although prison populations are increasing in some parts of the world, the natural rate of incarceration for countries comparable to the United States tends to stay around 100 prisoners per 100,000 population. The U.S. rate is 500 prisoners per 100,000 residents, or about 1.6 million prisoners in 2010, according to the latest available data from the Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS).1 Men make up 90 percent of the prison and local jail population, and they have an imprisonment rate 14 times higher than the rate for women.2 And these men are overwhelmingly young: Incarceration rates are highest for those in their 20s and early 30s. Prisoners also tend to be less educated: The average state prisoner has a 10th grade education, and about 70 percent have not completed high school.3 Incarceration rates are significantly higher for blacks and Latinos than for whites. In 2010, black men were incarcerated at a rate of 3,074 per 100,000 residents; Latinos were incarcerated at 1,258 per 100,000, and white men were incarcerated at 459 per 100,000.4 Since 2007, however, the incarceration rate in the United States has tapered slightly and the 2010 prison population saw a decline—of 0.3 percent—for the first time since 1972, according to the BJS.
Even with all of these disturbing statistics there is still hope and it starts when our sons are young. When we have children we have to know it is not about us anymore, but about making sure our children grow up healthy and strong. No, we are not perfect, but there are definitely some things we can do better. Especially when it comes to our sons. Boys need to be affirmed by their fathers and mothers. There is a special bond with mothers and sons and if not treated with care can send the son on a path that will take years for him to recover. I was speaking to a man who was in his 40’s and he said “When my father left it hurt and made me angry, but when my mother left it destroyed me and made me feel that I was nothing because she birthed me.” We all have to do our part so that our homes aren’t uncovered and the next generation of families has a fighting chance. It is not only time for the men to take their place it is time for the Mothers to walk in what they have been called to do for the children they birthed. Children are a gift from God, but also a Responsibility.
Mothers if you have a strained relationship with your sons it is time to work on it so that they are prepared to lead their families. Start by writing a letter to them to tell them how you feel about them. We buy our children a lot of things, but a letter to them cost nothing. It will inspire, affirm and help them to walk in their destiny.
If your relationship with your son is GREAT then help another mom on her journey. START TODAY!!
We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future. – President Franklin D. Roosevelt