ARE YOU RAISING CHILDREN IN A HOUSE OF JOY?

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Laughter is God’s hand on the shoulder of a troubled world. ~ Bettenell Huntznicker

Many of our homes have turned into an environment of task and to do list. Are you raising children that will want to come back home when they have grown up and left the nest? Home should be a place where they feel the most loved, encouraged and inspired. They should not feel like they have to perform, or gain your approval. When children feel JOY your house should be full of LAUGHTER and fun times as well as structure. What kind of home do you have? Go home and ask your children how they feel about being home. Also ASK your older children who have already left home for college or career.

Questions to ASK?

  1. Does home feel like a safe place or a place of pain and disappointment?
  2. Do we laugh enough? Don’t miss the opportunity to laugh with your children and your spouse.
  3. Do you feel Joy and peace in our home? Life is short and should be full of Joy and laughter.

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We are so consumed with making it, meeting every deadline, wanting our children and spouses to be perfect that we forget to enjoy the time that we have with them when we are home. Make sure JOY and LAUGHTER is still showing up at your house.

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 A good laugh is sunshine in the house. — William Thackeray

If LAUGHTER  has not been around in a while, take a look at this video and be reminded how it brings joy to your heart and sunshine to your home. ~ Yolanda E Shields

Home is a place you grow up wanting to leave, and grow old wanting to get back to. John Ed Pearce

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THERE ARE SEVERAL BENEFITS TO PRAYER

PRAYER WORKS

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Reduces Stress

When we lay our troubles at God’s feet, we can feel the weight of the world come off of our shoulders.

John 14:27  “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you.  I do not give to you as the world gives.  Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”  

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 Offers Us Hope

When we get down in the dumps, prayer gives us hope.  Laying all of our problems at God’s feet opens us up to trusting Him. When we trust God, we have hope that things will turn out fine.  It doesn’t mean that everything Is perfect, but it keeps us focused on what is possible with God.  

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

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Can Make You Healthier

There are a number of studies out there that show a link between prayer and emotional and physical health.  Some studies showed a significant decrease in heart disease, emphysema and cirrhosis of the liver for people who attended church once or more a week.  Other studies show worship was linked to lower blood pressure and a strengthening of the immune system.

3 John 1:2 Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well

with you, even as your soul is getting along well.

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Improves Our Attitude

Humility is a huge part of our faith, and prayer allows us to be humbled daily.

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

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LIFE LESSONS FROM MOMS ~ Letters To Our Sons

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  1. EAT DINNER TOGETHER
  1. SPEND TIME TALKING AND LAUGHING TOGETHER
  1. GIVE PEOPLE GRACE TO LEARN AND GROW
  1. SPEAK WORDS OF LIFE OVER YOUR CHILDREN
  1. PUT GOD FIRST IN YOUR LIFE

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OUR CHILDREN NEED TO HEAR OUR VOICE

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Have you taken time to communicate to your children? This can take place by verbal conversations, letters or spending quality time with them. We have become so consumed with social media and being so busy that we are not making time for our children. We are allowing social media, school activities and the TV to raise our children. Make a change in 2015 and start out with a plan. Write down the things you want to see differently about your communication with your children. Make sure you understand what each child needs and how best to communicate with them. Children are different so its not a cookie cutter approach but based on their individual needs. See below some great tips for mom and dads. Start TODAY! so that 2015 is filled with great conversational memories.

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Communication Tips for Parents – (American Psychological Association)

Be available for your children

  • Notice times when your kids are most likely to talk — for example, at bedtime, before dinner, in the car — and be available.
  • Start the conversation; it lets your kids know you care about what’s happening in their lives.
  • Find time each week for a one-on-one activity with each child, and avoid scheduling other activities during that time.
  • Learn about your children’s interests — for example, favorite music and activities — and show interest in them.
  • Initiate conversations by sharing what you have been thinking about rather than beginning a conversation with a question.

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Let your kids know you’re listening

  • When your children are talking about concerns, stop whatever you are doing and listen.
  • Express interest in what they are saying without being intrusive.
  • Listen to their point of view, even if it’s difficult to hear.
  • Let them complete their point before you respond.
  • Repeat what you heard them say to ensure that you understand them correctly.

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Respond in a way your children will hear

  • Soften strong reactions; kids will tune you out if you appear angry or defensive.
  • Express your opinion without putting down theirs; acknowledge that it’s okay to disagree.
  • Resist arguing about who is right. Instead say, “I know you disagree with me, but this is what I think.”
  • Focus on your child’s feelings rather than your own during your conversation.

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Remember:

  • Ask your children what they may want or need from you in a conversation, such as advice, simply listening, help in dealing with feelings or help solving a problem.
  • Kids learn by imitating. Most often, they will follow your lead in how they deal with anger, solve problems and work through difficult feelings.
  • Talk to your children — don’t lecture, criticize, threaten or say hurtful things.
  • Kids learn from their own choices. As long as the consequences are not dangerous, don’t feel you have to step in.
  • Realize your children may test you by telling you a small part of what is bothering them. Listen carefully to what they say, encourage them to talk and they may share the rest of the story.

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Children are not casual guests in our home. They have been loaned to us temporarily for the purpose of loving them and instilling a foundation of values on which their future lives will be built. James Dobson

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THE POWER OF PRAYER

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Philippians 4:6-7 ESV – Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 

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Prayer is not only good for you it works. I am strengthened to keep going as I meditate and focus on prayer, praise and studying the word of God. When I move away from this daily practice I notice a lack of focus and more distraction in my life.

Jeremiah 33:3 ESV – Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.

I was meditating this week on the power of Prayer. As I look back over my life I realize the only reason I have made it is my focus on prayer. Prayer is a powerful force.
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Prayer is a direct communication with God. You are just having a conversation nothing fancy or hard. It is very simple, but sometimes we make it seem like it is hard and not doable. Now don’t get me wrong it is powerful and it will change your life and the life of others that you pray for. If you are not sure what to pray just pray the word of God. To get started you can focus on the Lords Prayer first. It covers a lot and has so many parts that you can focus on and study for a couple of weeks.

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Nothing is too trivial … or too big to pray about. Sometimes, we get overwhelmed by a situation and feel like prayer is not enough, but I am here to tell you that prayer is exactly what is needed.

Make a daily appointment on your calendar each day to pray and watch what happens. Make sure to intercede on the behalf of other people and not just focus on yourself. As you pray for other people watch God answer your prayers.

Prayer is where the action is.” John Wesley

“The men who have done the most for God in this world have been early on their knees. He who fritters away the early morning, its opportunity and freshness, in other pursuits than seeking God will make poor headway seeking Him the rest of the day. If God is not first in our thoughts and efforts in the morning, He will be in the last place the remainder of the day.”
E.M. Bounds
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“Don’t pray when you feel like it. Have an appointment with the Lord and keep it. A man is powerful on his knees.” Corrie ten Boom

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TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN TO LOVE

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“Children Learn What They Live”
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive. If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves. If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy. If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy. If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty. If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence. If children live with tolerance, they learn patience. If children live with praise, they learn appreciation. If children live with acceptance, they learn to love. If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves. If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal. If children live with sharing, they learn generosity. If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness. If children live with fairness, they learn justice. If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect. If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them. If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

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Children do what they see, not what they hear.  You are modeling everyday for your children. What are they learning?

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FOUR THINGS TO DO WITH YOUR CHILDREN THAT WILL TEACH THEM ABOUT LOVE.

1. Model how they should treat others.

2. Have them give back by taking them to volunteer at a early age.

3. Let them know how you feel about them.

4. Teach them how to handle injustice in a peaceful way.

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To My Son

Oh how the years go by,
Oh how time can certainly fly.
From once just a thought in far away dreams,
now into my arms and in my eyes gleam
the presence of you.
Your laughter and smiles
which go on for miles,
warms my heart and soul.
You’re growing up so fast,
as I wish each moment with you to last forever.
My little boy will someday be a man
and right by your side I will forever stand.
I will pick up the pieces when you fall,
I will hold your hand and help you stand tall.
And when the day comes when you are on your own,
never feel that you are alone.
No matter how near or far apart
I am always right there in your heart.
Always remember whatever you go through
that no matter what, I will always love you.
 

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RAISING BOYS WITH CHARACTER AND COURAGE – LETTERS TO OUR SONS

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FROM THE BOOK LETTERS TO OUR SONS

Don’t just look at statistics about boys; look at what young leaders of this next generation are accomplishing. The next generation of young men with character will need:

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Courage: Courage, also known as bravery, will, and loyalty, is the ability to confront fear, pain and uncertainty.
Clarity: Clarity is clearness or lucidity as to perception or understanding; freedom from indistinctness or ambiguity.

Competence: Competence is the quality of being competent; adequacy; possession of required skill, knowledge, qualification, or capacity.
Coachability: Coachability is the ability to take direction from others.
Character: Character is moral or ethical quality: a man of fine, honorable character; qualities of honesty, courage, or integrity.

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“The future destiny of a child is always the work of the mother.” ~Napoleon Bonaparte

 

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Father’s are Sons Too – Letters To Our Sons – HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!

Father’s Day is a celebration honoring fathers and celebrating fatherhood, paternal bonds, and the influence of fathers in society. Many countries celebrate it on the third Sunday of June, though it is also celebrated widely on other days.

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As we celebrate Father’s Day I want to salute and honor all of the fathers that have stayed the course even when it was hard.  Your children need you more than you know.  Your relationship with your sons and daughters will determine their destiny. 

Ephesians 6:2-3 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise), SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU, AND THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH.

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What Is A Dad?

A dad is someone who
wants to catch you before you fall
but instead picks you up,
brushes you off,
and lets you try again.

A dad is someone who
wants to keep you from making mistakes
but instead lets you find your own way,
even though his heart breaks in silence
when you get hurt.

A dad is someone who
holds you when you cry,
scolds you when you break the rules,
shines with pride when you succeed,
and has faith in you even when you fail…

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A good father is the one who loves his wife.

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Being a great father is like shaving.
No matter how good you shaved today,
you have to do it again tomorrow.

– Reed Markham, American educator

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GREAT LESSONS YOU CAN LEARN FROM YOUR MOTHER THAT WILL MAKE YOU A MVP AND GREAT FATHER

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All I could think about during Kevin Durant acceptance speech for MVP was how he demonstrated what it looks like to be a great MVP because of the help of others. He was so emotional during that speech, as was his mother, and it was an absolutely fitting way for Durant to receive the biggest honor of his basketball career. He spoke about the sacrifices his mom made to ensure he and his brothers had enough to eat every night, how she worked hard to keep them safe and on the right track toward success.  These are the actions that create strong secure and confident men.  Even in the hard times she encouraged and motivated them.  In her lack she wanted the best for her sons.

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The speech will be forever remembered because he lifted up others and honored the sacrifice that his mother made. Because of the many sacrifices of others he has become the Man that he is.   He will continue to grow not just as a basketball player but as a man. I was also impressed with one of the first things Durant said in the speech. “Basketball is just a platform for me to send the right message as a role model”. Mothers are a big part of all of our lives, and it’s important to make sure they know that. A mother role will determine how well their sons do as husbands, fathers, leaders and friends. Letter to Our Sons

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In honor of Father’s Day we salute all of the Fathers that are standing strong in their role.

The difference between a boy and a man is not how they made the mistake but how they rebound from it.

What truly defines a father is not what he takes in but what he gives out.

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LETTERS TO OUR SONS FEATURE SONS STORIES OR LETTERS ABOUT THEIR MOTHERS JUNE 2014

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Letters to Our Sons will be featuring sons/men and their mothers during the month of June. If you would like to share your story please email Letterstooursons@gmail.com your story and pictures.  We look forward to sharing your stories that will inspire or challenge others.  LETTERS TO OUR SONS WILL ALSO HAVE FREE (Click link to enter) EBOOKS GIVEAWAY DURING THE END OF MAY AND FIRST PART OF JUNE.  VISIT FACEBOOK TO ENTER – DON’T FORGET TO FOLLOW US ON TWITTER

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